Friday, September 25, 2015

You Didn't Say Anything Then, Don't Start Now

It’s annoying how no one tells you when you are fat, fluffy, overweight, or out of shape, but the minute you start to look good and lose weight and feel better, people start trying to give you all of their diet tips. They begin to tell you that you are working too much, working out too much, and eating too strictly. They tell you this weight is good for you, maybe you should stop, and maybe you are finished.

Here is what I have to say to them:

"Hey, you didn’t say anything before, so don't start now. I don’t want to hear it. Where was your voice when I was all messed up in the mind, and blind? I couldn’t see it. I needed someone to see for me. Where were you then? You weren’t around, but now you want to give me all of your unsolicited advice.

"I don’t want it. I don’t want your judgments, your opinions of me, your negativity, your discouragement. I don’t want you making fun of me eating sugar-free snow cones. I don’t want you pressuring me to try to take a bite of your food that I don’t want a bite of. I don’t care what meal plan I am on.

"No one’s telling me to do it. I don’t want to be in bondage to this addiction anymore. The way I do that is to put my foot on its neck and change my habits.

"Would you just keep your comments to yourself? I don’t want to hear them anymore. Neither does anyone else."

1 comment:

M said...

I completely agree with you! I have struggled with the same issues and I am so over hearing everyone else's opinion. You know what else bugs me? When I was losing weight and at my thinnest, people told me how great I looked, they told me I was beautiful, then (like your experience) I got told not to exercise too much or that I could be forming an addiction to water. Anyway, it bugs me that these people never felt the need to comment on my beauty or my looks when I was fat. They don't comment now that I have gained all the weight I lost and then some. They don't tell me I am beautiful now, they don't tell me I look well now, so why should I care when they decide to start sharing their advice. Good on you for kicking your addiction! I am working on it and I am doing okay, and I'm not talking about it to anyone because it's nobody's business but my own. Obviously there will be a time when they will start to notice, but I'm not going to talk about it then either.
Thanks for your post.
You are Awesome! Keep trusting Jesus and remember that He thinks you're beautiful.
:) M